11 hours ago, dirtypop90 said:
I wouldn’t have gone there if this wasn’t an issue on this show. Remember trey didn’t care for Vanessa. He preferred white woman. Remember jephte saying he was hoping for someone racially ambiguous and was mean to shawneice. Will and jasmine, will said his preference was more meagan Goode, another heavily mixed black woman. I know we follow the one drop rule in America, but being attracted to Halle berry isn’t the same as being attractive to Black women generally.
I think some of these black men come on and aren’t honest. They might tolerate black women and only be attracted to those that look like Alicia keys. Tristan was and his wife turned out to be a scammer but I’m glad they didn’t pair him with a woman that looks like Meka.
I agree with you but want to make a distinction: Colorism, featurism, and a preference for non-black/racially ambiguous/mixed women are three different things that can overlap with self-hating black men.
Meagan Goode is black (2 black parents) and doesn't look mixed but she is lighter browned skinned, I wouldn't say exactly light skinned but close. However she is pretty, with a nose that isn't overtly afro-centric. Everything else,: cheekbones and full lips are pretty afo-centric IMO.
However, Halle Berry, Mariah Carey, and Alicia Keys are MIXED, not black--they all have white mothers. A light skinned black woman would be someone with two black parents. However, looks can vary because most black Americans are 70% - 85% African descent so some black people can and will look like mixed people. Loni Love and Tamar Braxton on the Real are both black but Loni is 83% black and is dark skinned and Tamar is 84% black and is medium brown skinned. You can see this on their DNA video on youtube.
Light-skinned black people who look mixed would be actress Bianca Lawson and Steph Curry and his wife. These people may be 70% black or more but their non-black genes are dominant in their appearance.
I don't follow the one-drop rule but a lot of uninformed people do. Thankfully, more and more black women are waking up to this nonsense and mixed women like Meghan Markle (who has a black mom/white father) will honestly relay that they are mixed because they are self-aware enough not to pretend to be black because it's not an accurate or fair comparison to black women.
Trey was mixed so I can make an allowance for him wanting a mixed or non-black woman. Jephte's cheating self is trash. Tristan is trash and is newly engaged again to a lighter/prettier version of Meagan Goode. I knew Will didn't like dark girls with Jasmine's features (wide nose, kinkier hair etc) ---basically the female version of himself.
It's like layers of a self-hating preference onion. When a guy wants a lighter brown-skinned woman he may just want a girl with less dominant black features but still black, i.e. Megan Goode or Ciara.
Then we go down to more features. Maybe Rihanna who'd look very black if she had very dark skin but has a feature, i.e. light eyes and a darker caramel color that would maybe make you question whether she was "completely black".
Then a step down, perhaps Bianca Lawson because she has light skin and probably 3c hair, more neutral features but would also look black with darker skin.
The inner layer of the onion would be mixed people. Meghan Markle.
Then finally non-black women who tan, Kim Ks and Jennifer Lopez.
Check out Chrissie's youtube vids if you want more examples.
Edited January 10, 2020 by kerriewayncG1vNJzZmien6fCrr%2BNqamipZWptq6x0WeaqKVfqbyxtcJoaGltZGmCbr%2BQaZxpal2dsrOxjJympp2jYsGpsYysq6uZnpyys3vPmp6eZ2Nk